How do you feel about that?

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I’m tired. You’re tired.

We’re all allowed to be tired. I’ve got responsibilities and jobs to do and so have you. My tiredness is no more relevant than yours and vice versa.

It’s not a competition.

I can’t explain how my tiredness makes me feel or precisely how tired I am. Just in the same way you can’t explain yours to me.

I read somewhere recently that some people are of the belief that if you haven’t had kids then you don’t really know ‘tired’. I can’t comment because I am constantly knackered and I have had a child for over 13 years so I have no comparison in tiredness without a child.

I’m fairly sure we can still be equally tired but that’s where it gets interesting.

We can never experiecne things in the same way. When I tell you that I’m happy or sad or excited, the core feeling is pretty obvious, at least I expect it to be.

When we start getting in to the realms of love, pain, anger, tiredness and fear then there is no way of giving someone else your own experience of these things.

I find it fascinating. There is absolutely no way of knowing how love feels to you. Pretty much the same way that we can all be exhausted from an array of different things and your ‘slightly sleepy’ cold be my ‘utterly exhausted’.

 

The bottom line is that we all experience emotions and feelings differently, we view the world differently, there’s no right or wrong way to feel the feelings or emotions. Or for the level of how they are felt.

In our house excitement is felt on an extreme range. My son, being a teenager, barely shows emotion of any kind and nothing excites him, I think that’s to do with being ‘cool’ though. My boyfriend doesn’t get noticeably excited, you can see it in his eyes though if there is something he’s really excited about.

Whereas I will jump up and down around the house when there’s a new episode of Designated Survivor on Netflix, I’m excitable, like a puppy.

 

The best thing about all of this is that I will never know if I feel things in the same way and even if I did know, I won’t ever know that I know…

So nobody’s feelings are anymore justified that anyone else’s. We’re all entitled to them as humans, feel them, embrace them, express them in any way you wish, mix it up a bit, why the hell not.

 

Kate Hames

 

Don’t ever let anyone make you think you’re not good enough. 

Follow your dreams right now! Don’t wait until tomorrow, 

next week, next year. Stop planning, start doing 🙂

 

Be happy and keep smiling 🙂

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