“You can’t pour from an empty cup”, basically you need to fill the cup up to be able to pour from it. The same goes for you. If you’re emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, spent then you have nothing left to give and this will leave you feeling deflated. This is why you need to take the time to invest in yourself. Fill that cup back up.
This isn’t all about relaxing and meditation and being all zen and calm, this is also about doing things for yourself. Things that you enjoy, taking the time to have a life purely for yourself.
There are literally hundreds, probably thousands of ways each individual person could invest in themselves, it all depends on what you enjoy doing or what you might need in your life at that moment.
Investing in yourself basically means taking care of yourself, making yourself happy, if you’re not in a good place how do you expect to function in your family life, work life or social life?
Sometimes you just have to think “f**k it” and be completely selfish.
In order to do this right though you can’t have any guilty feelings about the investment, that’s not going to work.
I went away for the weekend on my own about a month ago, I stayed in a nice hotel, I spent money on myself and I didn’t feel guilty about it for one second. I had an amazing time without any stress or worries, I used the time to rejuvenate myself, to fill that cup back up a little bit so that when life wangs a situation at you, you’re ready to handle it.
Now, going away for the weekend on your own might not be possible for everyone, it might even fill some people with dread. That’s fine, your self investment can be anything that you enjoy doing. But it has to be done for you, nobody else. Don’t combine it with something else to accommodate another person, this investment time is for YOU.
There will always be people around you giving you advice on how to invest in yourself, but not like I’m doing now 😉 they have things that have worked wonders for them and they’re only trying to do you a favour by keeping you motivated. Unfortunately sometimes we want to tell everyone to f**k off and that is fine, I wouldn’t advise actually telling them to f**k off but sometimes you just have to say,
“Okay, thanks for that, I’ll certainly take it in to consideration”
When actually you’re thinking,
“F**k off Susan! I don’t want to go on the Juice Plus diet or align my chakras! I want to eat 12 cupcakes and binge watch ‘Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt'”,
And that is completely up to you, you don’t have to be constantly “on it”. Have a day off, hell have two! That’s not you giving in, that’s just you taking a break.
(Yes, I know this is rather ‘zen-like’ picture, but I like it, it’s peaceful and relaxing)
“Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. What do we live for if not to make the world less difficult for each other?” – George Eliot